As a therapist, I can tell you that most people are deathly afraid of change, no matter how much they say they want or need it. Let’s take, for instance, the desire of an admitted alcoholic to stop drinking. He or she knows that their health would improve, they would stop experiencing so many problems, and they could finally put their energies towards more constructive pursuits than being obsessed with drinking all the damned time. Easy enough choice, right? And yet, there is one highly uncertain variable that would rear its unknowable head, if they actually did quit — they would no longer be able to control the way they feel. They might feel terrifically bored, without the diversion of drinking. They might feel totally unfulfilled by their relationship, without the numbing of drinking. And so on. But this uncertainty is exactly what is meant by that famous Tyler Durden-uttered phrase in Fight Club: Evolve, and let the chips fall where they may. Evolving means allowing your feelings to be your true feelings, without numbing or avoiding them, and evaluating how the reality of your world strikes you, after that. Evolving means allowing yourself to make the changes that reality has been screaming at you to make — and then believing like crazy that everything will fall into its rightful place when you do. Because it will. Let go! Let go! is what Tyler Durden implores the narrator (Ed Norton) to do — let go of your comfortable condo, your Swedish furniture, your deeply unfulfilling job. Sure, you’re going to feel almost unbearably uncertain, when you do let go. But hang in there, because the good and true and rightful path and direction of your life will emerge. And you will wonder why in the hell you didn’t let go and evolve sooner. ❤️‍🔥—Y.B.D.