I certainly can’t speak for all men, and I can’t even claim to speak for all women. But speaking for myself, I can tell you that sex has proved itself to be a far more sacred and personal act than it was originally presented to me to be. Yes, I know there are a lot of people who can have sex with somebody and just leave it at that. But it’s taken a couple of decades for me to realize that I need to take sex very seriously, because of the emotional impact it has on me. For instance, I think the term casual sex is a hilarious fantasy. As if there could be a world in which good and wonderful sex wouldn’t make me feel meaningfully connected to someone! And, on the other side of the coin, I can’t think of a scenario where abusive or disconnected sex wouldn’t make me feel deeply hurt by that person. One of the most damaging scenarios I ever experienced actually combined both of those — it involved wonderful sex that made me feel terribly connected to the other person, but because they didn’t want to have any sort of relationship with me, I ended up feeling hurt, confused, and bitterly disappointed. That’s the scenario that you will never touch me again is referring to. Of course, there are never any ironclad guarantees in life, but I have made a commitment to myself that I will not allow myself to be touched by the kind of person who doesn’t want to respect our relationship with the love it deserves — and, I happen to think, that we both deserve. ❤️‍🔥—Y.B.D.