MODEL: UNKNOWN, VOGUE, 1984; BACKGROUND: DANSKIN AD, 1980; TEXT: Y.B.D.

MODEL: KARA YOUNG; BACKGROUND: DANSKIN AD, 1980; TEXT: Y.B.D.

Oftentimes the things I want the most are the things that drive me crazy. I want a wonderful intimate relationship. I want to be an inspirational therapist. I want to be a warm and perfect mother. I want to be the most beautiful and attention-grabbing woman in the room… and so on. And when I want something badly enough, what happens is that my mind goes into overdrive, strategizing endlessly about how to get it. But this process of thinking also includes a whole lot of worry and obsession — mostly about all the “evidence” that suggests I won’t ever get what I want. And it’s the negative element of my thinking that ultimately sabotages my faith in myself, as well as my faith in the benevolent power of True Love that could otherwise help pave the road to true fulfillment. So you know what I’ve decided to do, instead? I’m radically letting go. I choose to let go of every client I’ve ever let down, of every mistake I’ve made as a parent, and of every terrible instance in which I’ve screwed up my chances for love with another person. I choose to let go of wearing makeup, and of looking through catalogs to find clothes that will “make” me beautiful. F- it! I don’t want to worry about anything anymore, because worry is what prevents me from the daily enjoyment of my very real life — as opposed to the imagined one that only exists in my mind. My goal now, I think (not that I’m trying to think too much about it!) is to have as little on my mind as possible, so I can put my awareness instead on enjoying whatever reality lies right in front of me. And what I hope is emerging, out of this lovely lack of thought and worry, is a beautiful current of trust that will carry me forward. A trust that wraps its warm and generous arms around me and everything I do, and makes me feel solid and steady as a rock. ❤️‍🔥—Y.B.D.