Both of the times I can remember having this exact thought about someone — I can’t wait to never see you again — it was only a matter of time before I had a change of heart, and I very much did want to see them again. So either I’m full of shit, or this sentiment reflects some sort of inner truth that I’m just not expressing in a very truthful way. I mean, clearly there’s a good amount of anger in I can’t wait to never see you again, because it’s an intentionally hurtful thing to say to somebody. It’s also a very dramatic thing to say, which indicates the strength of the emotion behind that anger. Anytime someone uses the words always or never, you can be sure that’s their heart talking, the heart that speaks from its emotional experience, rather than being rooted in truth or logic. But back to anger. I have felt plenty of anger, in these particular relationships I’m talking about, and anger is really just a reaction to deep and bitter-feeling disappointment. So let’s just say that I can’t wait to never see you again is, at its core, my own feeble attempt to prevent experiencing that painful disappointment again. And yet, because I have gone back on my word to “never” see that person again, clearly my desire for them still burns within me! It would be better, then, and far more constructive, to say something like, hey, can we talk about this? Honest and respectful communication certainly can’t salvage every relationship, but there’s a heck of a lot more hope for it to do something good than turning your back on a person forever. ❤️‍🔥—Y.B.D.