Some of us are obsessive by nature about what (or whom) we love. Sometimes that obsessive tendency is a good thing, when it allows us to focus our energy and follow through on a constructive activity. But when it comes to relationships, obsession can feel downright freaky, both to ourselves, as well as to the object of our obsessive affection. I personally experienced a breakup that lasted approximately three years, on my end. As for my ex, he seemed to have left my memory behind (even going to far as to move out of state) somewhere around year two. Sometimes I still catch myself holding veritable conversations in my head based on old texts we exchanged, wishing I could go back in time and edit what I said, and the way that I said it. Not to mention all the happy reunions I imagined in which my ex-boyfriend experienced a total eclipse of the heart, after deciding he couldn’t live without me. At any rate, I came up with this line, are you sure you want to be alone with me in my head? when it occurred to me that we would probably both be a lot safer if I could finally manage to let it go, and release my ex from the depths of my pointless imagination. And yet, sometimes I wonder — does he ever worry that I forgot about him completely? Moreover, could it ever be considered a turn-on for him to know that someone from his past was still obsessively in love with him? (Update: I am not in love with him anymore.) ❤️‍🔥—Y.B.D.